Training children as actual problem of the present

Actually problem: At present training children is considered the most actual problem in pedagogics, psychology, sociology and so on. Because, training children is a very difficult process and it includes several aspects: age psychological peculiarities; sociological problems of education and training, family and collective`s influence and so on. One of eternal problems of pedagogics and psychology always consisted in achieving maximum increase of efficiency of deliberate and purposeful educational impacts on a child.

Method: Modern scientific ideas of education and training developed as result of long antagonist of several pedagogical, psychological and sociological ideas. In the period of the Middle Ages the theory of authoritative training formed and this theory continues existing in different forms till now. One of the bright and popular representatives of this theory was German pedagogue I. F. Herbart who reduced training to management of children. I. F. Herbart considered threat, supervision of children, orders and prohibitions as methods of management. The theory of the free training which put forward by J. J. Russo arose against the theory of authoritative training. He and his followers urged to respect growing person in a child; not to constrain him; to stimulate him in process of training [1, 64].

In this article, we would like to stop on the problem: parental work`s affecting in training children. Parental work in training children must under construction on love, trust, worship, mutual understanding, and obedience and so on. It is known, hatred excites contentions, but love covers all limitations. Because, love doesn`t envy and isn`t extolled; love isn`t proud and love doesn`t look for itself; love doesn`t peeve; love doesn`t think about evil; love doesn`t rejoice at lie and will be glad for truth; love covers and trusts everything; love always hopes. So, according to scientists, humanity is summation of moral and psychological internals in personality expressing relation to a person supreme value. This peculiarity of personality reveals in displaying kindness, goodwill and friendliness; in readiness to help other person and attentiveness to him (her); in reflection, that is ability to understand to and to put himself (herself) on his (her) place; in tolerance to alien opinions, beliefs and behavior.

Empiric results and recommendations: According to modern view, training is considered as progress of purposeful and consciously controlled by socialization like family training, religious training and school training. These socializations have several differences in different periods of child`s development. One of the most important differences taking place of child`s development in all periods is training acts as mechanism of management of progress of socialization. At the same time, it is impossible to overestimate also the role of social factors in formation of a child as personality. Aristotle wrote that soul isn`t used up the book of nature; experience applies on its pages its inscriptions. D. Locke considered that person is born with pure soul like a board covered with wax. And training writes on this board what it will like. French philosopher K. A. Helvetius taught that all people possess identical potential for intellectual and moral development by nature and distinction in psychological peculiarities is based on various influences of environment and different educational influences [2, 276].

Any action of person causes an assessment from people around if it affects other people in a varying degree and it isn`t indifferent for interest of society. We estimate it as good or bad, correct or wrong, fair or unfair. Thus we use concepts of moral. According to how moral is mastered and accepted by a person, it is possible to judge about his (her) level of moral. In other words, moral is personal characteristic unifying following peculiarities and properties as kindness, decency, honesty, truthfulness, justice, diligence, discipline, collectivism regulating individual behavior of person.

However, a wise son always pleases his father; a silly son distresses his mother. A wise son listens to admonition of his father; a riotous son doesn`t listen to accusation. A wise son gladdens his father; a silly person neglects his mother. A wise son observes the law; a son who is thick with spendthrifts shames his father. A son ruining his father and expelling his mother is considered dishonorable, disgraceful and ignominious. If a son robs his parents and says ‘it isn`t a sin’, he is considered an accomplice of robbers. If a son slanders his parents, his lamp will go out among deep darkness. Thus, it is grief and sorrow if somebody brings up a silly child and a silly child`s father never pleases. So, parental work in training of future generation should be so chaste and careful. If to direct a young man at the beginning of his way, he won`t evade from it when he grows old.

Parents must take into consideration teaching children to talk to others who are around them in training their children. Because, a person`s tongue does much though it is a small part of a person`s body. As a tongue is fire, none of people can`t tame. So each person should be dexterous for hearing and he should be calm and peaceful on his words and anger. If someone doesn`t commit sin in his (her) words, that person is considered perfect and he (she) can bridle all his (her) body. Culture communication in children demands formation of trust, kindness to people. It will happen when politeness and attentiveness become norms of communication around children.

Parents should bring up their children in a spirit of industry avoiding laziness. Because, lazy hand makes poor a person; a hand of diligent enriches him. A collecting man during summer is considered a reasonable son; a sleeping man during harvest is considered a dissolute son. It seems parental work in training and forming children as a personality should be directed on an industry. Labor training of a child begins from labor duties and tasks in his family. Labor was and remains as a necessary and important resource to develop psyche and moral of personality. Labor must become natural physical and intellectual necessity for a child.

Scientific deductions : Family consists of parents and their children. A woman only belongs to her husband; a man also belongs to his wife. Marriage between a husband and a wife should be pure. To live in a happy family is better than to live in a family there isn`t joy and happiness. So, a husband and a wife shouldn`t distress, insult and hurt one another. It is so important in a family. They should spend their time for each other. To the purpose, loyalty, understanding, trust, patience, sincerity, care is important in a family. A man should love and appreciate his wife; a woman should respect and trust her husband. First of all, she should be always obedient to him. It is necessary when a child sees how his father loves and appreciates his mother and how his mother respects and trusts his father. Watching the relationship between his parents, a child will learn to love, to appreciate, to respect, to understand and to trust people living around him. When a child grows up, he will be grateful to his parents for their training. Because, he was learnt by his parents how to live right. Thus, human properties are considered so important in training and forming children as personality. And bringing up and forming children as personality is considered a parental duty before society and a state.

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